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Surpassing the Love of Men : Romantic Friendship and Love Between Women from the Renaissance to the Present

Surpassing the Love of Men : Romantic Friendship and Love Between Women from the Renaissance to the Present

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(Paperback)-First published in 1981, this feminist classic began modestly as an academic essay on Emily Dickinson's love poems and letters to her future sister-in-law, Sue Gilbert. In her original introduction, Faderman recalled her surprise at finding these records of an erotic attachment between women that showed no evidence of guilt, anxiety, or the need for secrecy. Yet 60 or 70 years after they were written, the original letters had been bowdlerized by a niece of Dickinson's, who clearly found them too shocking for publication. Why, Faderman wondered, was passionate love between women, once almost universally applauded in the Western world, now almost universally condemned? She learned that the love between Dickinson and Gilbert had many precedents, and that it was only in the late 19th century that medical literature and antifeminism combined to rank women who loved women "somewhere," as she puts it bluntly, "between necrophiliacs and those who had sex with chickens." For this new edition, Faderman explains that she has resisted the urge to update her text, hoping that her exploration of romantic friendship, from French libertine literature through the dawn of feminism through the lesbian panic of the 1920s will still serve as "solace and ammunition" for those hoping to find "a usable past." --Regina Marler
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User Reviews for Surpassing the Love of Men : Romantic Friendship and Love Between Women from the Renaissance to the Present

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  1. Star FullStar FullStar FullStar FullStar Full Posted: Jan 13 2009

    Recently I was asked for a list of books for "an adult who is just beginning to explore whether or not they may be bi or lesbian". As someone who went through this many, many years ago and has written extensively on this topic, Faderman's book was one of the first that came to mind. As individuals exploring our own sexuality - regardless of what that is - gaining historical context and perspective is a critical part of self-discovery. This is not the only book I'd recommend and it has a scholarly aspect which borders on clinical for a woman (or man or other) on the road to self-discovery. I cannot count how many copies of this book I have purchased over the years, highlighting various passages which held out special meaning or purpose for me, and passed on to others. In the end, we all have our own paths and Ms. Faderman's book manages to cross most of them. For those on a personal path, or those looking to understand the concerns and needs of a loved one trying to understand their place as a lesbian and bisexual in today's world, this is an excellent text for reading and gaining historical perspective. Bravo to Ms. Faderman for not 'updating' a historical text but letting her original research prevail.

  2. Star FullStar FullStar FullStar FullStar Full ( 1 of 1 found this review helpful ) Posted: May 6 2008

    I'm surprised there's only one other review for this book! It's absolutely fascinating, and should be on the list of anyone interested in not only womens' issues, but human relationships in general. It will definitely make you think, but it is not a difficult read, and Faderman covers an impressively vast array of sources. I'll be recommending this one to everybody.

  3. Star FullStar FullStar FullStar FullStar Empty ( 11 of 17 found this review helpful ) Posted: Jul 28 1999

    The author forcefully insists on the real passion between the women that she studies; this becomes to me repetitive and distracting. However, given the historical context of this book, in which a "lesbian recovery" of history was less accepted, I see the purpose of her tactics. In any case, the author draws together a wealth of evidence that makes for fascinating and provocative reading, even if she does lean a bit too much on literary examples as proof of what attitudes were "really." She makes a strong case, though. Recommended.

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Product Specs for Surpassing the Love of Men : Romantic Friendship and Love Between Women from the Renaissance to the Present

Author: Lillian Faderman
Number Of Pages: 496
Category: Paperback
Brand: Harper Paperbacks
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.7609
Label: Harper Paperbacks
Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
Product Group: Book
Publication Date: 1998-07-08
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